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Winning the Battle of Self-Esteem (part 2)

The self-esteem issue has to do with whether you see yourself in your own image or in the image of God. You were made in the image of God and you were created with the physical and mental attributes that He wanted you have. You were created to express the many facets of God creativity. I know a lot of women whose self-esteem is as low as the curb next to my grass because they cannot and never will look like a supermodel. They believe what makes them good is the way they look on the outside. For some women, there seems to be a direct correlation between self-esteem and their physical attributes. If we think negatively about our physical attributes then it can set the stage for us to be in what I call, “the pit of uncertainty.” Always wondering if you are good enough, pretty enough, smart enough. When you don’t like who you are, you are basically saying in your heart, “I don’t like what God created.” Yet, what He created he called it good and we must take joy in what He created. Psal...

A Woman's Heart - Winning the Battle of Self-Esteem (part 1)

I John 4:4 states "But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world. To realize that God is within you is the first step toward winning the battle against the negative thoughts that fill your mind. You must know that your mind will determine your future! The number one thing that determines your actions is what you think about on a daily basis. As a Pastor and Director of Women Ministry in the Assemblies of God, I have counseled many women on one issue of life or another. But the one issue that comes up the most often is the struggle of low self-esteem. When a woman's self-esteem is low she forgets that she is victorious. The Spirit of God is surpressed in her. She does not understand that the Spirit who lives in her is greater than the spirit of this world. She has no fight in her, and she makes poor choices around many things such as choosing a ...

Desperate for His Love - Burning Hearts (Envy or Love)

This afternoon I had lunch with 2 ladies in Concord, MA. I was telling them some of the quotes, my Mom, Bille, would say. For example, one quote I remembered her saying to me at 15 years old, standing in the dining room of our 4 bedroom house that was filled with 9 kids, was "Life owes you nothing, but you owe it everything." Thus, it set the stage for my life at the age of 17 years to go to college and have a burning desire to achieve something in this life. My heart would burn with the desire to be loved for who I am and not to be loved for what someone else wanted me to be. I knew I wanted to travel and see the world when at the age of 14 I read the "Diary of Anne Frank" about a courageous Jewish girl who against all odds survived in a hidden room of her father Otto Frank's office building for 2 years. I thought if she could have such courage in the face of the most evil and awful times in Germany, I surely could survive the 70's, racism, and prejudice ...

Desperate for His Love - a Bitter Heart

Wow it is 2010 another year begins, but this is also the beginning of a new decade. My family was blessed in the last decade. I traveled all over the world from Paris and London with my daughter, China with my sister, and then to Singapore, India, China, Malaysia, London, Israel, Korea and Brazil for work. As I traveled I had the opportunity to minister to women from various cultures and backgrounds and there was always this consistent theme - Love. I spoke to many women who wanted to be loved by someone desperately. It did not matter if they were from China, Korea, Brazil or the USA, they all wanted to be loved or at least treated as though they were loved by someone. My hope for all women is that they will experience the gift of love. There are two types of women who will have a hard time finding the gift of love; A bitter woman and an envious woman. 1) A bitter woman - It is difficult to experience the gift of love when you are filled with envy, discouragement or bitterness. When...