Desperate for His Love - a Bitter Heart

Wow it is 2010 another year begins, but this is also the beginning of a new decade. My family was blessed in the last decade. I traveled all over the world from Paris and London with my daughter, China with my sister, and then to Singapore, India, China, Malaysia, London, Israel, Korea and Brazil for work. As I traveled I had the opportunity to minister to women from various cultures and backgrounds and there was always this consistent theme - Love. I spoke to many women who wanted to be loved by someone desperately. It did not matter if they were from China, Korea, Brazil or the USA, they all wanted to be loved or at least treated as though they were loved by someone. My hope for all women is that they will experience the gift of love. There are two types of women who will have a hard time finding the gift of love; A bitter woman and an envious woman.

1) A bitter woman - It is difficult to experience the gift of love when you are filled with envy, discouragement or bitterness. When a woman's self-esteem is low and her spirit is discouraged, she will look for love in all the wrong places. The saddest woman I every ministered to was a bitter woman. No matter what the man tried to do to show her that he cared, he always fell short. A bitter woman has no faith or hope. She believes all men are pretty much the same. Some women become bitter because of their past and do not realize it. If you find yourself comparing him to every hurt and experiences that another man caused, you might be a bitter woman. The worst example of a bitter woman in the Bible is Jezebel. She tried to kill Elijah, who destroyed her false gods. The synonym for bitter is angry and resentful, sometimes expressing intense hostility. Women can become angry and resentful when they have suffered intense disappointment, loss or hurt. Naomi said in the book of Ruth, after she lost her husband and two sons in a land of false gods,"Don't call me Noami. Call me Mara, because the Almighty has made my life very sad." The name Mara means bitterness. Her husband chose to leave Israel and go to Moab and she lost all that was precious to her. However, she gained through faith, a daughter-in-law, Ruth who became the great-grandmother of King David and is in the lineage of our Lord Jesus Christ. The only thing to counteract bitterness is faith and hope. Have faith in God that he will heal your wounds and mend your broken heart.

A married woman will be unfaithful when she is envious or hungry for a fantasy love, which is a certain type of false love. Which leads to the second type of woman, an envious woman. A woman full of envy will destroy the love in her life.

Read the blog next week when I will talk about how envy is one of the Seven Deadly Sins that destroys the life of grace, and creates the threat of eternal damnation.

Remember: True love is deep and glorious.

And as Paul prays in Ephesians 3:16-19 (NCV), “I ask the Father in his great glory to give you the power to be strong inwardly through his Spirit. I pray that Christ will live in your hearts by faith and that your life will be strong in love and be built on love. And I pray that you and all God's holy people will have the power to understand the greatness of Christ's love - how wide and how long and how high and how deep that love is. Christ's love is greater than anyone can ever know, but I pray that you will be able to know that love. Then you can be filled with the fullness of God."