A Woman's Heart - Winning the Battle of Self-Esteem (part 1)
I John 4:4 states "But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world.
To realize that God is within you is the first step toward winning the battle against the negative thoughts that fill your mind. You must know that your mind will determine your future! The number one thing that determines your actions is what you think about on a daily basis. As a Pastor and Director of Women Ministry in the Assemblies of God, I have counseled many women on one issue of life or another. But the one issue that comes up the most often is the struggle of low self-esteem. When a woman's self-esteem is low she forgets that she is victorious. The Spirit of God is surpressed in her. She does not understand that the Spirit who lives in her is greater than the spirit of this world. She has no fight in her, and she makes poor choices around many things such as choosing a mate, a career and even choosing the wrong food (another topic for another blog).
You know Self-esteem = Confidence + self-respect. No one can take it from you or give it to you. A healthy self-esteem is neither competitive nor comparative. You don't compete nor do you compare yourself to everyone else. Here are some tips on winning the Battle of low self-esteem.
1. Stop living in a fog. A self-confident person is a person who lives purposefully and conscientiously: a person who chooses to live and face the fact about the truth and who they are. Respect reality. For example, you need to know your weight if you want to reach your weight goal. You have to get the number of pounds you weight to know how many pounds you have to lose. Know your debt amount. The only way to reduce the debt is know the debt.
2. Live Conscientiously - Look at your routine and conscientiously understand the facts. The facts on what you do and why you do it every day. Look at the root cause and reasons for the things in your life that are not going well. I am bi-vocational a Pastor and a Senior Manager at a DOD contractor company. My responsibility is to lead a team of people every single day to discover the risk and opportunity in the business. To find the risk of technical problems, cost and schedule we need to understand the root cause of potential problems. I often find that everything that God teaches us has a physical side and a spiritual side. To improve your self-esteem you must get to the root cause of it.
3. Value what is essential - set goals to achieve those things that fit into your value stream. What you value is where you spend your time? Set goals for your life and work on them to achieve them. The more you achieve your goals the greater increase in your self-respect.
4. Be Specific! Pray specific. God request that when we pray we be specific. Jesus said don't babble on and on like the pagans, who think God will hear them better if they talk a lot. Don't be like them; your Father knows what you need before you ask him. You only need to ask. So be specific so He can give you what you specifically ask for. Also, be specific about the things you want out of a relationship. A man needs to understand specifically what your requirements are before he can meet them.
5. Live Purposefully - Put some type of order in your life. Live a life of purpose and order the things around you. A messy house is an indication of a messy mind. Order your life and remember you are responsible for your time not someone else. Leave time to have order and it will bring you opportunities that you cannot imagine. If you are always rushing around you can miss something or someone who is very important in your life.
6. Live Responsibly - Find time to know God - you are responsible for your spirituality not someone else. You are responsible for your actions and your thoughts. The devil really cannot make you do it. You choose to do what you do. Face the truth about this and change what is destroying your future.
7. Live Respectfully - Respect for God is the beginning of wisdom. Respect for others is beginning of living. Respect yourself and take care of your body and what you put in your mind. Respect others and they will give respect and love back to you. It truly is a circle of love.
If the Lord permits we will continue this blog next week.
Love in His Name,
Pastor Tricia
To realize that God is within you is the first step toward winning the battle against the negative thoughts that fill your mind. You must know that your mind will determine your future! The number one thing that determines your actions is what you think about on a daily basis. As a Pastor and Director of Women Ministry in the Assemblies of God, I have counseled many women on one issue of life or another. But the one issue that comes up the most often is the struggle of low self-esteem. When a woman's self-esteem is low she forgets that she is victorious. The Spirit of God is surpressed in her. She does not understand that the Spirit who lives in her is greater than the spirit of this world. She has no fight in her, and she makes poor choices around many things such as choosing a mate, a career and even choosing the wrong food (another topic for another blog).
You know Self-esteem = Confidence + self-respect. No one can take it from you or give it to you. A healthy self-esteem is neither competitive nor comparative. You don't compete nor do you compare yourself to everyone else. Here are some tips on winning the Battle of low self-esteem.
1. Stop living in a fog. A self-confident person is a person who lives purposefully and conscientiously: a person who chooses to live and face the fact about the truth and who they are. Respect reality. For example, you need to know your weight if you want to reach your weight goal. You have to get the number of pounds you weight to know how many pounds you have to lose. Know your debt amount. The only way to reduce the debt is know the debt.
2. Live Conscientiously - Look at your routine and conscientiously understand the facts. The facts on what you do and why you do it every day. Look at the root cause and reasons for the things in your life that are not going well. I am bi-vocational a Pastor and a Senior Manager at a DOD contractor company. My responsibility is to lead a team of people every single day to discover the risk and opportunity in the business. To find the risk of technical problems, cost and schedule we need to understand the root cause of potential problems. I often find that everything that God teaches us has a physical side and a spiritual side. To improve your self-esteem you must get to the root cause of it.
3. Value what is essential - set goals to achieve those things that fit into your value stream. What you value is where you spend your time? Set goals for your life and work on them to achieve them. The more you achieve your goals the greater increase in your self-respect.
4. Be Specific! Pray specific. God request that when we pray we be specific. Jesus said don't babble on and on like the pagans, who think God will hear them better if they talk a lot. Don't be like them; your Father knows what you need before you ask him. You only need to ask. So be specific so He can give you what you specifically ask for. Also, be specific about the things you want out of a relationship. A man needs to understand specifically what your requirements are before he can meet them.
5. Live Purposefully - Put some type of order in your life. Live a life of purpose and order the things around you. A messy house is an indication of a messy mind. Order your life and remember you are responsible for your time not someone else. Leave time to have order and it will bring you opportunities that you cannot imagine. If you are always rushing around you can miss something or someone who is very important in your life.
6. Live Responsibly - Find time to know God - you are responsible for your spirituality not someone else. You are responsible for your actions and your thoughts. The devil really cannot make you do it. You choose to do what you do. Face the truth about this and change what is destroying your future.
7. Live Respectfully - Respect for God is the beginning of wisdom. Respect for others is beginning of living. Respect yourself and take care of your body and what you put in your mind. Respect others and they will give respect and love back to you. It truly is a circle of love.
If the Lord permits we will continue this blog next week.
Love in His Name,
Pastor Tricia
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