Desperate for His Love - Burning Hearts (Envy or Love)
This afternoon I had lunch with 2 ladies in Concord, MA. I was telling them some of the quotes, my Mom, Bille, would say. For example, one quote I remembered her saying to me at 15 years old, standing in the dining room of our 4 bedroom house that was filled with 9 kids, was "Life owes you nothing, but you owe it everything." Thus, it set the stage for my life at the age of 17 years to go to college and have a burning desire to achieve something in this life. My heart would burn with the desire to be loved for who I am and not to be loved for what someone else wanted me to be. I knew I wanted to travel and see the world when at the age of 14 I read the "Diary of Anne Frank" about a courageous Jewish girl who against all odds survived in a hidden room of her father Otto Frank's office building for 2 years. I thought if she could have such courage in the face of the most evil and awful times in Germany, I surely could survive the 70's, racism, and prejudice views of ignorant people. I realized to be a successful woman I had to have a burning desire to love and forgive even when I was wronged.
You see, I have found many women hearts can burn two ways: 1) with love or 2) with envy.
Envy and jealousy are not the same. They are two different distinct emotions. Jealousy is the fear of losing something that one possesses to another person. Envy is an emotion that occurs when a person lacks another's (perceived) superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it. Envy usually derives from a sense of low self-esteem. For example, a married woman can envy a single's woman ability to date certain men and begin to image how it would be to have such a life. She then becomes discontented with her own husband, who may be faithful and works so hard he cannot always romance her exactly the way she wants to be romanced. She falsely believes that her single friends have a better life and her heart burns with envy to have the life her friend has. Not knowing that she is being "setup" by Satan to end her marriage. Job 5:2, says, " For wrath killeth the foolish man, and envy slayeth the silly one." Instead of her having burning love and desire for her husband arms, she burns for the desire to have someone else who will fit her fantasy. Which is about the silliest thing a married woman can do. She leaves a man who loves and take care of her (true love) for imaginary love. This is all caveat with the fact that she has a loving and kind husband to begin with (Of course if he is abusive - emotionally, physically or hurting you any life threating way you probably need to re-think things and find a way out)
Envy is known as one of the seven deadly sins that destroys the life of grace, creates the threat of eternal damnation. These sins are called the Capital sins because they destroy the love in a woman's heart. A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.(Proverb 14:30)
Restoring you from Envy: Try humility - submitting to God and legitmate authority. Recognizing virtues and talents that others possess as their gifts and find confidence in your gifts. Be grateful for what you do have. Finally, extraordinary gifts are revealed in extraordinary love.
You see, I have found many women hearts can burn two ways: 1) with love or 2) with envy.
Envy and jealousy are not the same. They are two different distinct emotions. Jealousy is the fear of losing something that one possesses to another person. Envy is an emotion that occurs when a person lacks another's (perceived) superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it. Envy usually derives from a sense of low self-esteem. For example, a married woman can envy a single's woman ability to date certain men and begin to image how it would be to have such a life. She then becomes discontented with her own husband, who may be faithful and works so hard he cannot always romance her exactly the way she wants to be romanced. She falsely believes that her single friends have a better life and her heart burns with envy to have the life her friend has. Not knowing that she is being "setup" by Satan to end her marriage. Job 5:2, says, " For wrath killeth the foolish man, and envy slayeth the silly one." Instead of her having burning love and desire for her husband arms, she burns for the desire to have someone else who will fit her fantasy. Which is about the silliest thing a married woman can do. She leaves a man who loves and take care of her (true love) for imaginary love. This is all caveat with the fact that she has a loving and kind husband to begin with (Of course if he is abusive - emotionally, physically or hurting you any life threating way you probably need to re-think things and find a way out)
Envy is known as one of the seven deadly sins that destroys the life of grace, creates the threat of eternal damnation. These sins are called the Capital sins because they destroy the love in a woman's heart. A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.(Proverb 14:30)
Restoring you from Envy: Try humility - submitting to God and legitmate authority. Recognizing virtues and talents that others possess as their gifts and find confidence in your gifts. Be grateful for what you do have. Finally, extraordinary gifts are revealed in extraordinary love.
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