Making The Most Out of Your Relationships
Proverbs 14:16-17 (the book of Wisdom in the Bible) states, " A wise person fears and turns away from evil, but a fool is reckless and overconfident. He who is quick-tempered does stupid things, and one who does vile things is hated."
To be reckless in our relationship with each other is foolish. Unfortunately, this happens a lot in families. Someone is quick with their tempered, and does stupid things, even hurt the other person and they expect people to "put up" with it. Each time you get angry and do vile things you are not only hurting yourself, but you are hurting those who love you. There are times when your family member or friend is just trying to tell you how they see things. Most likely this is because they care for you. It is wise to think about what they are saying instead of reacting foolishly to the situation.
We assume that our friends and family will always be there, no matter how badly we behave. So we treat them any kind of way. However, one day they may think that it is just not worth it and walk away.
I truly believe that there are people who have very little emotional intelligence (trust me this has nothing do with how fast you can add numbers). Often times foolishness comes from a person who does not give the rational area of the brain, pre-frontal cortex (the front of your brain), time to process before he allows the limbic system (middle of your brain) to send a signal to make sense of his feelings. Instead he reacts immediately and does or say stupid things. When emotional intelligence was first discovered it served as the missing link and why people react so quickly without thinking things through.
Maybe this is why God ask us to "Be Still and know that I am God." (Psalms 46:10). We need quiet time. We need to pray and think things through until we can make reason out of the situation. We need to manage our relationships through the ability to reason, pray and think things through. Those who truly love you will never intentionally try to hurt you or rush you to make a decision. So pray and forgive before lashing out and recklessly messing up your relationship.
And, if you are blessed to have good friends and family members who stand by your side no matter what you have done, begin today to do whatever you can to mend the relationships and make the most out of what you have. Because, some people have no one to turn to, and they have more enemies then the stars you can count. You are perhaps blessed enough to have a family who cares about you and friends who love you. So maybe you have to agree to disagree, but at least you know that person has your back. Remember God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.
May God grant you good relationships that will bring you joy and may you remember that somethings are just not worth arguing over.
Love and for His Glory;
Pastor Tricia
"Whoever curses his father or mother - his lamp will go out in total darkness."
To be reckless in our relationship with each other is foolish. Unfortunately, this happens a lot in families. Someone is quick with their tempered, and does stupid things, even hurt the other person and they expect people to "put up" with it. Each time you get angry and do vile things you are not only hurting yourself, but you are hurting those who love you. There are times when your family member or friend is just trying to tell you how they see things. Most likely this is because they care for you. It is wise to think about what they are saying instead of reacting foolishly to the situation.
We assume that our friends and family will always be there, no matter how badly we behave. So we treat them any kind of way. However, one day they may think that it is just not worth it and walk away.
I truly believe that there are people who have very little emotional intelligence (trust me this has nothing do with how fast you can add numbers). Often times foolishness comes from a person who does not give the rational area of the brain, pre-frontal cortex (the front of your brain), time to process before he allows the limbic system (middle of your brain) to send a signal to make sense of his feelings. Instead he reacts immediately and does or say stupid things. When emotional intelligence was first discovered it served as the missing link and why people react so quickly without thinking things through.
Maybe this is why God ask us to "Be Still and know that I am God." (Psalms 46:10). We need quiet time. We need to pray and think things through until we can make reason out of the situation. We need to manage our relationships through the ability to reason, pray and think things through. Those who truly love you will never intentionally try to hurt you or rush you to make a decision. So pray and forgive before lashing out and recklessly messing up your relationship.
And, if you are blessed to have good friends and family members who stand by your side no matter what you have done, begin today to do whatever you can to mend the relationships and make the most out of what you have. Because, some people have no one to turn to, and they have more enemies then the stars you can count. You are perhaps blessed enough to have a family who cares about you and friends who love you. So maybe you have to agree to disagree, but at least you know that person has your back. Remember God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.
May God grant you good relationships that will bring you joy and may you remember that somethings are just not worth arguing over.
Love and for His Glory;
Pastor Tricia
"Whoever curses his father or mother - his lamp will go out in total darkness."
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